Why does death tear families apart?

We all get older as we do we find that we are faced with many of our loved ones passing. I have been to too many funerals in the past year and have found that during and after someones passing some families really come together and cherish the time they had with that person and some have difficultly because of past problems. I understand that families have problems and fights.... wow... who doesn't. Life is not perfect are we are definitely not. I know that my sister and I still fight and have had many fights but she is my sister and we forgive each other because we are family.

I often find that some family members get greedy, selfish and can't forget the past. Why when someone passes do we worry about money expect to make sure we have enough to cover the funeral and past debts. Now I worry about money when I pass because I want my children to be taken care of but when my kids have kids of their own and so on... I am not worrying anymore. With all the deaths this past year my sister and I have talked a lot and well... I know that I was jealous of my sister and the time and money my parents spent on her. As I get older I think why would have my parents not done the same for me well.... I think about it and realize... my sister and I are different. When we raise our kids we treat them fairly not equal because every kid has different needs. My son has fever seizures. When he is sick my husband and I are watching him and really worried about his next seizure. As for my daughter when she is sick we worry but not to the same extent or degree. Are we bad parents for doing this no because Rayna will have her own things that we do for her and not for Peyton.

I guess what I am trying to say is that when someone you love passes think about all the things they did with you and how much they added to your life. Try not to focus on who gets what and realize that you all are grieving and have compassion for one another because each person is affected differently. Why should you be mad because one family member got the piano and you got a locket or an old house to clean up. Whomever passed away did it that way for a reason.... remember they did things differently because of how each of you are different. Get over it..... Life does go on and how you are remember when you pass will be reflected on how you are in your life.