Soother or Not?

The question is out there as parents do you give your child a soother or not. We have many questions as parents but this is a very simple one for myself since both my kids did not want soothers. As for my future children I guess we will see what they choose.

Peyton(boy) is three years old and never wanted a soother. I think he took it 3 or 4 times for a short amount of time. He either gagged or pushed it out right away. My little girl, Rayna, is one and she sucks her thumb. We tried a soother on and off but she would also gag and push it out. She would rather have her thumb.

It is very obvious that babies love to suck, it is soothing for them. I breast feed both my babies for one year. I sometimes would let them use me as a soother for soothing them at night or during the day when they were having a fussy time. Some people don't agree with doing this but it was a great way to soothe them and comfort them. I also found that I enjoyed that bonding time. Maybe this is also why my kids did not take a soother since I was that for them. I was there comfort instead of a soother.

I wonder what the ratio of kids that have soothers to who don't is. Take my survey.

I have found that Rayna sucking her thumb has made it easier to lay down to go to sleep than what Peyton was. He was a lot of work. I have noticed with friends and family that kids that have soothers do tend to lay down easier and fall asleep easier too. This is totally understandable since they have that soothing sucking which they have loved since they were babies.
I have also noticed that when the first born has a soother usually the second will too. Now is this because parents have got used to the first having a soother it is just natural to give the second one too or is it just genetics that they both love the soother or is it just coincident.

My findings are not true to everyone since these are only my experiences with babies, soothers, and sleep. Please let me know about your experiences and feelings on this issue as parents. Please take the survey?

More Info Febrile Seizures

On the Huggies Happy Baby there was an article about Febrile Seizures that might interest some of you. I did noticed that with Peyton, my son, having 4 seizures within 24 hours it puts him at a greater risk of developing epilepsy. I am finding that with every year that passes the more and more information comes out about febrile seizures and they change. We are trying to keep up with the new info. We try also to keep our families and friends informed since they are around Peyton and may have to witness or even deal with a seizure without us. I hope that this helps to info others who have little ones with febrile seizures .

My Husband Is Turning Into My Father In Law

Just a question out there. Do we all turn into our parents? In the last year I have noticed my husband is turning into his dad. I have known for sometime that I am like my mom in soooo many ways. I also find I am like my father. I have also noticed that we often recognize these traits or traits in others because they are often negative traits. I am stubborn like my father and start conversations halfway through like my mother. My husband on the other hand has become a complainer like his dad. I guess not really a complainer but more upset with stupidity. Do we inherit these traits at birth or do they slowly seep into us the older we get? I do noticed that have a lot of good qualities from my mom and dad which we usually don't talk about as much.

This blog is not to hurt anyones feelings or make people mad but to make them think. I do know that I have bad or negative traits that I am sure will be passed on to my kids. I can just see it now my daughters husband will look at her and say..... You are just like your mother... You never want to admit when you are wrong.... hehehehee. Yes this is one of my bad traits. Anyways... for all you married or people in relationships take a good look at the mom and dad on the other side... yes sometime you will noticed that your other half is becoming his or her parents.

Birthday Invitation

This is some of my sons birthday invitation.
 

Febrile Seizures

http://www.ninds.nih.gov/disorders/febrile_seizures/detail_febrile_seizures.htm#104063111

Our oldest boy has seizures. His first four happened just before his first birthday. The first happened around 5 pm and the second around 9 pm and then the next 2 happened with in a minute of each other around 9 am. These all happened within 12 hours. I was at home with him for the first. I called looking for my husband at our friends home and he came racing home and we took him to the hospital. This was our first mistake. I should have let his seizure finish and then take him in. We were first time parents at this and were in shock and thinking our little guy was dying. I knew he was having a seizure but he looked like he was having trouble breathing too. We were very soon thrown into the world of doctors, worries and panic. Our family doctor has been awesome through our experience. Some other doctors have not.
Now our son has had 9 in total with the last being last February. We are definitely more informed now and hope to inform and support and share our stories with other families dealing with the same febrile seizures. When we first started to share our stories about our son and his seizures we got a lot of different responses.
From some of our religious family members we were told that we should baptize him, others were worried about damaging his mental capabilities after the seizure, and other thankfully were calm and very supportive. We were lucky because my parents witnessed and had dealt with febrile seizures before. I had one when I was 1 year old just after my immunization.
My husband and I were determined to learn more about these seizures and reassure and inform people about them. A lot of people compared his seizure to a kid holding his breath and a kid having a temper tantrum. This was not even close. We wanted our family and friends to be well informed about these seizures since he can have them when ever he was running a temperature. Most of my immediate family has witnessed one of his seizures. My husbands family though has not and we really wanted them to be able to witness what it would look like. This I know sound horrible, but if they could see what it would look like they would know what was happening and we think be able to react calmer.
I have dealt will all of his seizure except one. I was either by myself, with my husband or with family. At the beginning my husband and I thought we could prevent them if we could keep his temperature down... and we found out very quickly that if they are going to happen they just do. There is nothing we can do to prevent them. I guess that is not exactly true you can give your child seizure medication which we do not want to do since they are just febrile seizures and do not cause any long term effect on him.
I hope this blog gets noticed and I can communicate with other parents of children who have febrile seizures.

What really matters

Check this video out.  It really makes you think about what is more important.  I know that many times a day my husband and I complain about things not going our way or us having bad luck. We are pretty well off.  We have a lot of luck in our lives and are very happy to have the special things we do have.  I guess what I am trying to say is we often think about us and ourselves instead of others and I think that we should try to focus more on others and how we can help.

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